I love the movie In Her Shoes because it reminds me a lot of my relationship with my sister. Of course I never kissed her boyfriend or anything, but I was always the younger irresponsible one and I would always go to my sister for help. We have a close relationship and she always seemed more like a mother to me than my sister. I invited her to go with me to the Panther's playoff game. Besides the outcome of the game we had a great time. She told me that she realized that she needs to start acting more like a sister. Who cares if my place is a mess, we can still have fun together and that is what we did.
Growing up my sister was my idol but I hated being compared to her. She was the outgoing one and I was the shy one. I came to realize this weekend that she really does all the talking so I can not put a word in anyway. She is very pretty and guys in my grade always had crushes on her. She was the smart one that had the history, math and excelled in english which was my weak point. She was the star tennis player, while I would lose my racket in discouragement. I think I never thought I could live up to her so I would take the backseat. She would tell me that you are the pretty one, great in the business world etc. But I don't see it.
Jean was not always so great. In high school she was getting into trouble but by the time I came around it seemed like I was an angel. She broke the parents in for me. Thanks! She would buy me beer when she babysat me in high school and I would throw parties. It was so much fun. She showed me the ropes. Then it kindof changed because I never did grow up.
She got married and had kids young and I am still single and not planning on kids until I can take care of myself. It is this gap between us that caused us to not be as close as we once were. It is hard relating to my friends and family with children because I don't have that. They are stay at home moms and some of them have even told me that they are only close to people with children. She said she had a new best friend. I say she was extremely rude. I would never tell a friend I don't want to hang out because you don't have children.
Anyway, I am glad we put our differences aside and ended up just being together. She still did all the talking and I kind of liked it.
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Well, your sister seems like a nice gal. I have an old sister, too. She was the hellion and I was the more sedate one. She was a lot smarter than I as well, and I was measured against her academic performance.
We get along better now than we did back when.
As far as relating to people with kids vs without, it is just that at times you have more in common and it is easier to get together for a playdate than a night out to dinner, etc. Also, the behavior many kids have in public can often be difficult to handle if you don't have kids - I say this as one who used to be really annoyed by kids in restaurants or airplanes when I was single. Now they are just part of the background noise.
It definitely can be trying to be around people who have children when you don't. Even if it is family.
That being said, I'm glad to hear you two are finding common ground. You're sisters. For life.
Your relationship with your sister sounds just like mine! We had the exact same problem all through school. All the boys in my class had crushes on her, she was better at sports, got better grades, etc. But she also broke in my parents and bought me my first beer. It was her ID that I used to buy beer in college. Hang in there, your differences now will eventually even out and your friendship will be stronger than ever.
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